Children are affected by the things that go on around them, and divorce can affect them in so many different ways. This includes children of all ages. Whether a divorce is amiable or spiteful and vicious, the separation of a child’s parents will more than likely be a life-altering event.
How Can I Help My Child Cope with A Divorce?
First and foremost, do not take your aggression against your spouse out on your child. They are innocent victims. Do not involve your child in arguments you have with your spouse. Do not make your child pick a side, adopt your negative opinion of your spouse, or be mean to their other parent. Your child is already in the middle of a life-altering situation and should not feel like they have to hate one parent to appease another.
If you do argue with your spouse, try to do it outside the presence of your child. It can be devastating for them to hear constant yelling and conflict. Make time for your child and allow your spouse to have time with your child. Do not make everything about the divorce. Try to keep life as normal as possible for your child.
With all of this said, however, you should talk to your child about what is happening between you and your spouse together in a supportive and calm way. Let your child know they are loved and your divorce has nothing to do with anything they have done. Allow them time to adjust. Seek counseling for your child when needed. They may be holding in heavy emotions that they are not willing to tell anyone about, but may be coaxed into talking to someone they can trust.
Following these simple rules can lead to a smooth transition for the child. The failure to follow these simple rules can lead to emotional scars and dysfunctional adult behavior.